It’s February, which means Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. It’s all about love in February. Hearts, flowers, chocolates, and couples are everywhere. So, I was thinking that I should do a few blog posts on love and relationships.
The things I am going to write about, in these few posts, are the things I have learned that are a huge help to me. When it comes to the subjects of dating and love, I try to be a “listen and learn” kind of person, and I suggest you do the same. Finding your spouse is not a thing you want to just learn as you go on. I think it is essential that you dig into Scripture, so that you know what God has said about this topic. I’ve also found the advice of others to be especially valuable. Listen to the people that are older than you. Their advice can save you a lot of trouble and heartache down the road. Also, just observe. Some things are just common sense. I have learned so much by just observing the way other people conduct their relationships. So I have found that you can learn a great deal about the subjects of love and dating just by reading the Word of God, listening to the advice of others, and observing those around you.
Alright, so, I would like to start by just making something clear: Complete satisfaction and happiness does not come from finding the right person. People walk around as if they will only be happy if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend or if they get married. However, If you think that you will find complete satisfaction in another person, then you’re going to be disappointed. They are human, and they are going to fail sometimes. So, that means that there is no human who “completes you”, because you cannot find complete peace in one flawed human being.
Then, the reality is that the ONLY person that can truly satisfy you is Jesus Christ. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is never going to be able to fill the void in your heart that Christ was meant to fill. Before we even start to talk about human relationships, it is imperative that we talk about your relationship with God.
If your relationship with God is not in the right place, then your relationship with anyone else is not going to be in the right place. Do you know what a cornerstone is? All throughout the Bible, we see Jesus referred to as the Cornerstone. A cornerstone is the first stone set in the construction of a foundation, and all other stones are set in reference to this stone, thus determining the position of the whole structure. Do you see where I am going with this? Christ should be the Cornerstone of our lives, and if our Cornerstone is not in its proper place, then all the other aspects of our lives are going to be out of place, as well. So, if our relationships are not centered around Jesus, then our relationships are going to be built incorrectly and become dysfunctional.
So, while you cannot find complete joy and satisfaction in finding the right person, you can find it in Jesus Christ and being the right person that He calls you to be. In this first post in our series, we have to take a look in the mirror before we start looking for the right person. Some of my friends and I have created different lists of qualities that we would look for in our spouses, which I think is great and necessary. However, you have to be what you wish to attract. If you wish to attract a godly guy, then you must become a godly girl. I can assure you that the godly man you are looking for is not going to be interested in a girl that says one thing and practices another. If you’re not living the life God wants you to live, then God very well could send great guys or girls your way and you miss them, because you are not the type of person they would be attracted to.
So, as we kick off this little blog series, I urge you to make sure Christ is your Cornerstone. No one will ever be able to take the place of Jesus in your life. Before you even start looking for a relationship with a man or women, I believe it is imperative that you make sure you’re in the right place in your relationship with Christ. I also urge you to take a look in the mirror and make sure that you are what you wish to attract. If you are not, then work on it, so that when the time comes, you will be what the person you want is looking for. So, I pray that you will set your Cornerstone and look in the mirror.
I hope you will continue to read as I write a few more posts on love and relationships. I am very excited, this is our first little blog post series! So, I hope you keep reading. If you have any questions, comments, or prayer requests, please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or you can leave a comment below. Thank you and God bless!